Anne Sheffield is the famous autobiographical taleteller.
She directed both America’s and International Parenthood Federations.
Being born and raised by a depressive mother, she realized how more than 17 million people in America suffer just like her with depressive illness.
Her book “How You Can Survive When They are Depressed,” gives us successful strategies of how to cope with this illness.
A depressive person does not suffer in loneliness, it affects all those who are close to them.
This book describes what happens when you live in close proximity to someone with depression and supporting you when all are seeming to support the depressed person. You are not alone!
“How You Can Survive When They’re Depressed” was published in 1998.
This book is dedicated to all those sufferers who suffer because of being surrounded by a depressed person usually belonging to their close circle. People like their spouses, lovers, children and parents and friends.
The book works as a guide explaining the reactions, sufferings and damages happening in response to a depressed person’s trail of thoughts.
The sub-title ‘Depression Fallout’ given to the book is a condition, which a person faces as an effect of being close to a depressive person whoever that may be.
The after effects faced by a person staying close to a depressive soul are usually unrecognized and difficult to note. This is why they are generally ignored.
If you’re depressive fallout, Sheffield marvelously puts a finger on all the signs of frustration you might be conceiving while trying to heal someone else, and she takes your hand on the journey of self-healing first, highlighting your own needs.
She understands your resentment, self-doubt, guilt and self-blame when you’re unable to ‘cure’ that loved one. She tells you that it’s not your fault.
Anne brings together many real-life examples from her support group at Beth Israel Medical Center and will show how the depression fallout is real and suggesting that by setting boundaries with the depressive ones, the issues faced by the fallout can be solved.
Her tactics are practical as she teaches a ‘fallout’ that helps you to get in the driver’s seat and smoothly steer out of accidents/incidents for as long as possible.
The book speaks to the heart of a depressive ‘fallout.’ It knows about the agony of close ones and being unable to “fix” it, and the stress and frustration that brings.
From faulty neurotransmitters to ‘failing of expectations and self-doubts’, Sheffield covers all you need to know about your demoralization, anger, confusion and distancing, desire to escape, sadness, resentment, frustration and guilt.
She restores your faith in yourself, unwinds your tangled emotions and uncoils the answers regarding depression.
Sheffield defines the roles of a fallout with very detailed live examples, such as persuading or manipulating the depressive into taking professional help.
Moreover, her detailed study deserves an award just for the research work she has collected about depression.
For this one tells you a story; a story of the anatomy of depressive illness, from the control of limbic system over feelings to the communication of neurons, this book leaves no detail behind.
She doesn’t even leave out information on the Nature versus Nurture theory, explaining the biological and environmental impacts on mental health.
She’ll show you varieties of depression and you’ll meet many aggressive, paranoid, psychotic and delusional patients that are not mere case studies but real-life humans’ right in front of you.
She gives cures to ‘fallouts’ suffering from low self-esteem, and manifests to them how ‘they cannot pour from an empty cup.
Sheffield outlines the five stages of depression fallout: confusion, self-doubt, demoralization, anger, and finally, the desire to escape.
Many people will find relief in the knowledge that their self-blame, guilt, sadness, and resentment are a natural result of living with a depressed person.
This book labels the symptoms of anxiousness, fatigue, dullness, sleeping and eating disorders, pessimism, bad decision making, suicidal thoughts, irritation, crying, non-treatable chronic pain, each with a real-life example.
What’s striking about the book is, you’re meeting all the people Ann has met. Such marvelous crafting of narratives is spilled in these pages, all within a powerful narrative of a light-diction story book!
Sheffield also does not forget to touch the complex connection of faith to depression, as well as guides to finding good treatment.
• The book triggers the analytical thinking of people who have been around depressed people.
• At last, a book for those equally suffering through supporting someone with depression and not knowing where or who to turn to. Helps you recognise the problems within a relationship directly related and caused by depression.
• The book helps the revival of self-esteem of people who lost it in holding themselves accountable for the conditions of their loved ones and their unrecovered depression.
• It helps the reader feelings of aloneness through giving several real life examples of other depressive fallouts.
• The book also connects the individual’s mental state to faith and is a Bible in reviving depressive fallout’s faith.
• This book is too the point, truthful telling it how it is which some might find a hard pill to swallow.
• It brutally nullifies the theories that supports empathizing with the depressed person, rather telling you how to create boundaries, thinking wisely and not have them impact on your life whilst getting them on the right path as well.